Would you like to have disabled children? Do
you want your kids to become criminals? Certainly not; none of the parents
would ever want their children to become bad people. I am also one of them, and
before getting married, I would like to know why it is important to be
certified. Fear is a survival mechanism and a natural emotion; I feel the fear
of having children who show irresponsibility when they grow up. The Theory of
Fear is all about knowing that when a person confronts a perceived threat,
their body responds in a specific or negative way. I think that if people get
to know how their children will contribute to unsustainable environment
tomorrow, they will definitely love the idea of being certified. The physical
response to fear is known as the fight response in which a person’s body
prepares itself to either accept the situation or to run away. It is a kind of
biochemical reaction which can ruin the individual’s whole life as well as can
leave a negative impact on their generations. This is an automatic response
that is crucial to our survival, meaning if people are certified before having
kids, they will be able to understand how to raise them well and what types of
facilities should be provided to them. According to Matthew R. Sanders, parents
must be certified because it can be difficult for them to raise children well
in the absence of a sense of responsibility (Sanders, 2017). It should be
noticed that taking care of children is quite difficult and that parents have
to make a lot of decisions for their wellbeing and bright future. Those who are
not licensed or have not received an education will find it difficult to raise
their children in a sustainable and friendly environment, and it will not be
possible for them to differentiate between good and bad for their kids. Both
parents (mother and father) should be licensed before they have children.
Is it important for parents to be certified
to have children? There is a strong need to implement result-oriented
strategies so that couples can be urged to receive certification before they
have their own children or plan to raise a family (Jang et al. 2018). Just like
a license is mandatory to drive and to use a gun, governments should only allow
certified couples to have babies. In the meantime, they should be told how many
babies have to be produced. It means a newly married couple should be taught
why it is essential for them to have a baby or two and then focus on raising
them well. The expert further says that the notion that parenting is natural
has nothing to do with reality. This because only educated or certified parents
have a broad mind, and the others may not be able to provide as many facilities
and comforts to their children as are needed for their bright future, health
and wellbeing. Thus, there is a strong need for certified couples to have
babies while contributing to the progress of the nation.
Some experts suggest that parents should be
licensed or certified in order to protect their children by setting a simple,
minimum skill set about good parenting. However, Jori Sechrist argues that
anyone can learn parenting skills by paying utmost attention to what they
should actually do (Sechrist, 2017). A large number of people living in
different parts of the United States and worldwide are non-certified, and this
is a matter of great concern. Surprisingly, these individuals are still able to
raise their children well and many of them know the basics of family planning.
Another thing we need to pay attention to is that young couples should not be forced
to receive certain certifications before they are able to have babies. However,
the fact cannot be ignored that certified parents are better able to educate
their children than those who are non-certified couples. This is because they
earn a living and have knowledge of medical sciences, which make it easy for
them to provide care to the children at every stage of their development and
growth. In the meantime, they are better able to plan families than
non-certified couples. Thus, the value of being certified and knowledgeable
cannot be ignored, and this must be a condition for young couples before they
could have babies or plan a family of their own.
In a 2018 study by James G. Dwyer, it has
been mentioned that parents who are unfit or illiterate must be kept away from
their children for a specific time (Dwyer, 2018). This is because they will not
be able to raise or educate them and may cause problems for the little ones. In
contrast, certified parents should be allowed to have as many babies as they want,
as they can make the best choices for their children without any issue. The
author emphasizes the need of sparing children for non-certified parents and
says that those who have not received proper education should not be allowed to
have babies, until or unless they participate in training programs to learn
parenting skills. Another idea is to encourage non-certified parents to join
vocational training programs, where they should be given admission in
specialized programs of parenting skills. The basic knowledge of medicines
should be mandatory for all young couples who want to have babies as soon as
possible or have made their minds to have a family. They should not be allowed
to give birth to a baby until or unless they become licensed or certified.
The principle of Commitment and Consistency
can be applied to this scenario (Ho, 2016). Commitment is what parents do with
their children regarding how they will look after them and what types of
facilities will be provided to them. On the other hand, consistency comes when
parents are able to provide the needful to their children for a lifetime or
until they become independent after their marriage. Dede Nurul Qomariah and
Viena Rusmia Hasanah have pointed out that when children misbehave at school,
teachers quickly call their parents to clarify things, as they know that
parents are the only people who can make children understand how to behave
normally and nicely (Qomariah & Hasanah, 2017). It is true that teachers
are responsible for teaching manners to the children, but they can never be an
alternative to parents’ love, care, and affection. This is why it is essential
for parents to be certified so that they can teach the basics of life to their
children before sending them to schools for traditional education. An example
of this can be taken from leisure activities. When children go to the park with
their parents, they may start behaving abnormally or rudely if they are not
provided with the needful. Certified parents would be better able to handle
such kids than those who do not even know the basics of parenting. At every
stage of their lives, children need consistent support of their parents, which
is easy to be provided by certified and skilled couples. They become more
knowledgeable with time and set certain rules and regulations at home so that
the children can remain within their limits. Thus, the principle of Commitment
and Consistency is valid and can be applied to varying situations, especially
the ones which are related to the parent-children relationship.
Similarly, Naomi Farber is of the view that
one of the contributing factors of divorce is illiteracy of either the mother
or the father (Farber, 2016). Single parents can raise their children well if
they are certified and know how to select the best for their little ones. In
contrast, couples who do not receive any certification may never be able to
manage the family. Thus, they should not have babies until or unless they have
received the proper education. Children are the leaders of tomorrow, and it
will not be possible for a country or nation to progress if the generations are
not qualified and not prepared to face challenges. The role of certified
parents in children’s lives cannot be ignored. Thus, we can say that once
parents commit to their children and remain consistent, then positivity can be
brought to the lives of little ones.
More than 90 percent of certified parents
have no problem having more than five children. This is because they are
capable of managing multiple children at a time (Chai & Joo, 2017). These
are the people who can work hard to earn something good for their children, and
they can easily plan things for the whole family. Children whose parents
encourage academic success are likely to develop their own aspirations for higher
studies. If children are born and parents remain unlicensed, then this can
leave bad impacts on their lives. Thus, there is a strong need for young
couples to become certified before they start having babies. Commitment and
consistency are as important for children as are for parents. This is because
if children will not commit to their parents and will not serve them when they
grow up, then negative impacts can be left on society by the whole. At the same
time, consistency is what everyone needs to take care of; it originates where
parents are consistent with providing their children with all comforts of life,
and at the same time, it is present where children are consistent with serving
their parents in the best possible ways.
According to Matthew R. Sanders mentions, the
cases of child abuse have increased in number in recent years. The one
contributing factor is the illiteracy of parents. If young couples, according
to the expert, are not qualified or certified, then they should not be allowed
to have a family (Sanders, 2017). In fact, teenagers should be encouraged from
an early age to get certified so that they can raise the family well after
marriage. It can be problematic or risky for non-certified couples to raise
their children well, as in some situations, they lack sufficient money, and
sometimes, they do not even know what the parenting skills are. The findings of
this study are parental attitudes play an important role in how children will
be educated and grown. Non-certified parents may never be able to provide
utmost comforts to their little ones, and the chance is that they will
contribute to their negative or odd behaviors. So there is a strong need to
educate teenagers before they are allowed to marry and to have babies.
In conclusion, we can say that once parents
become certified, it will be easy for them to continue providing the best
facilities to their children. This is because they are able to earn good, are
sensible and understand their responsibilities toward their children. Thus,
newly married couples should be encouraged to get a certification before they
plan their families. The focus of the government should be on educating more
and more people regarding why they need to be certified and how to plan their
families appropriately. Until they have not received a certification, they
should not be allowed to give birth to babies. Obviously, the government cannot
stop people from having sex, but they can educate a large number of people and
funds can be granted for such training programs so that more and more
individuals get attracted.
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